Who really is a friend?

Just like an average teenager I too entered college with a hope to make memories with an amazing set of people. Friends I can “chill” with. Little did I know that everyone you hang out with isn’t a friend. When you move out of your homes and come to college, you’re completely responsible for yourself. Its expected out of you to make the right choices and choose the right people.

It’s very easy to make friends when you’ve grown up an extrovert and especially when no-one knows anything about you. I was lucky to find people I already knew. So, forming connections was easier. I took everyone as a friend and don’t get me wrong, that’s okay. But the mistake I made was not thinking about whether this friendship was adding value to me or just simply taking away from me. This is something you won’t realise till it’s too late. At this point in your life your entire persona will be defined by and depend on your circle. It is said and I quote “if you are with 3 millionaires you’ll be the fourth but, if you’re with 3 fools you’ll be the fourth” So, it’s completely in your hands which way you choose to bend.

The question arises, how exactly do I choose people who’re right for me? Well the tell is simple, you need to focus on the small gestures. These gestures could be as petty as, getting you water when they get it for themselves or asking you if you’re okay once in a while or even something as little as giving you space. Ask yourself, will this person appreciate my success even when they’re not successful? Will this person be happy for me even though it’s not their win? Will this person vouch for me? and lastly Will this person correct me when I’m wrong or going off the rails? If your answer is yes, then you keep these people close.

One thing that you need to be sure of is consistency. Are these friends consistent with their efforts? Are they still lifting you up? And if the answer is no, then you need to withdraw yourself from the situation. You’ll meet a lot of people who will at first be great but later they’ll be very laid back and this will be time when you’ll have to cut them off. Cutting off doesn’t mean you need to create drama or get involved in fights. All you have to do is silently remove yourself from a situation that isn’t contributing to your growth.

Connections that you form now will either build you or completely destroy your future. If you’re around motivated people who motivate you to get work done, you’ll be able to become the best version of yourself. Moreover, you’ll even develop and grow as an individual. The right group of friends can help you gain emotional and mental maturity. Yes, its great to have a lot of friends but trust me when the time comes its always quality over quantity. A mindset that I developed after a whole year of meeting new people is to nurture friendships that nurture you.


  1. Mitali says:

    So well written 🙂

  2. siddhant upadhyay says:

    Small gestures do impact friendship and it’s description given here is apt, looking forward to more such articles

  3. Manya Trivedi says:

    It was an intriguing blog.

  4. Aaysha Agrawal says:

    It’s really influencing and motivating.

  5. Yashi Mohan says:

    Great Article !!!!

  6. Nishanth Reddy says:

    Friends play a vital role in our lives and this article depicts on how to choose friends, and highlighting this had added the importance to the article

  7. Soumya Deb Saha says:

    nicely written:)

  8. Mitali Shahapurkar says:

    Amazing work!

  9. Armaanjit says:

    Well writtenn!!!

  10. Misha Mathur says:

    Amazingly Written!

  11. Ishika Tyagi says:

    It’s an interesting article 👍

  12. Aarohi says:

    Amazingly expressed.

  13. Tanushka says:

    Good work! 👍

  14. Shashank Mishra says:

    Okay, this is a great article, love it!

  15. TEJAL GOSAIN says:

    Optimistic people lead to optimistic environment which is very necessary in the corporate world. Nicely illustrated!

  16. Aadya says:

    Amazing article

  17. Vedika Poddar says:

    The blog was very amazing it told us to choose the right people and know who is our friend really

  18. Skand Sharma says:

    Such an awakening article in its own ways.

  19. Ritik says:

    Beautifully written Chitrakshi!!

  20. Nipun Dhingra says:

    Inspiring message

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